First Impressions - You Only Get Oneby Doug Pierre |
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Don't rush it! Take your time and make a good first impression
"Make your first impression count"
"Try to make a strong first impression"
"Your first impression should be your best one"
And the sayings go on and on. First impressions are important in many aspects of life. Guess what? This this the case in the world of online dating as well.
You surely have at least scrolled through some personal ads at an online dating website. You know how quickly you can go through this process:
"No, no, no, hey a snowboarder!" *click* *read profile* "not bad" *add to favorites*
*Back to list of ads*
"No, no, mmm a hottie" *click* "umm, maybe not"
*Back to list of ads*
And so on.
In other words, you scan through people quickly. Don't think people with make an exception for you. They won't. Online dating is all about speed. It's a go-go world baby - You got your cell phones, tivos, remote controls.. Sorry I'm getting off topic.
The fact is, in online dating you get into someone quickly and you get over them quickly - you need to know how to make a good first impression.
I have made the mistake of spotting -the perfect girl- and thinking, "there is no way she will still be here tomorrow." It's 1am, I slap myself in the face a few times to try to wake up so I can write something intreguing. Two minutes later I fire it off and then head to bed. The next day she is still there, and it's my chances of ever getting with her that are gone.
Maybe I am just trying to ease the pain of rejection, or maybe I did actually make a bad first impression. Afterall, I hadn't had time to write a decent profile - it said something brilliant like, "hey whats up. im dan. hope we can meet up some time." As for the message I sent her, it wasn't much better. I did look pretty damn good in my profile picture, though.
But sometimes dazzling good looks alone aren't good enough. If you want to make that great first impression you need to have the full package: a good profile, an interesting but not over-the-top personal introduction of yourself (that actually shows you read their profile), and of course, that sexy pic.
Getting a second chance in online dating is about as likely as getting a second chance to run for President. Unless you got turned down for a Kennedy, it ain't happening. Even if you just flirt with them and they don't flirt back, you have a HUGE mountain to climb to get yourself back in there.
Try it. Send a bunk message to someone cute and then try to change their mind. Change your picture or rewrite your profile. Tell them your fatally ill millionaire uncle, whom you are the sole heir of, sent that message for a quick laugh. It won't work. Trust me.
So take your time, and don't take it personally. If you spend a bit of time and effort and turn them off, then I guess it just wasn't meant to be. Ya it stings, but would you rather live your life not knowing?
Don't rush it like I did. Make sure you have a picture you like and a profile you like before getting in touch or even flirting. Chances are he or she ain't going nowhere. Get that thought out of your head. There is nothing more painful than knowing you will never get the chance to show someone who you really are. |
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